Navigating Criticism

Anyone who has served in ministry knows how easily their work can be misunderstood—whether it’s their mission, their intentions, or the message they long to share. Putting anything out into the world, especially in a public way, means facing criticism, often from those who are quick to judge rather than seek understanding.

Henri Nouwen, one of my favorite authors, wrote the following letter to Fred Rogers, a man whose work and faith have deeply inspired me. His words speak to the reality that criticism is often the cost of doing meaningful work. I’ve felt this tension myself—whether in preaching, creating something for others to engage with, or most recently, releasing my first book. May this letter serve as a reminder that we are not alone in these struggles, and that faithfulness, not approval, is what we’re called to pursue.

A letter from Henri Nouwen to Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers):

Dear Fred,

I have just returned from Europe where I received permission from my Bishop to stay at L’Arche. I am now back here hoping to settle more definitely and find a new rhythm of life that is a little more livable than what I have had in the past. I read the article you sent me and can very well understand how much that must have hurt you. It must be really painful to be confronted with a total misunderstanding of your mission and your spiritual intentions.

It is these little persecutions within the church that hurt the most. I simply hope that you are not too surprised by them. They come and will keep coming precisely when you do something significant for the Kingdom. It has always struck me that the real pain comes often from the people from whom we expected real support. It was Jesus’ experience and the experience of all the great visionaries in the Church, and it continues to be the experience of many who are committed to Jesus.

I don’t think it makes much sense to argue with the writer of this article. He speaks from a very different plane and will not be open to your explanations. Some of the criticisms we simply have to suffer and see as invitations to enter deeper into the heart of Jesus. I won’t send you some of the reviews I get of my books, but some are not very different from the tone of this piece. So I certainly feel a unique solidarity with you.

Let us pray for each other, that we remain faithful and not become bitter and that we continue to return to the center where we can find the joy and peace that is not of this world. Thanks so much for staying in touch with me.

Much love,

Henri Nouwen